I registered my domain name 3 years ago to start blogging but never did. I kept thinking that nobody would want to read what I wrote. And mabye that’s still the case. However, I have found healing in what I’ve started here. The support from friends, real life and online has been amazing. I am so grateful to every person who takes the time to read, comment, share…it’s amazing. I watch the little feed ticker every day and see it going up and up and up…it’s a small number, but I feel like I’ve made it to the moon. And maybe that’s small beans to most people, but I just started this, so I’m pretty impressed.
The three things I’ve learned along the way? Here they are:
#1 – Freedom. The freedom to write about any topic, that is. When I first registered my blog, I was going to limit the topics discussed to writing only. I’m an aspiring writer, so I should write about writing. Umm, wrong. I’m an aspiring writer on a good day. I’m a frazzled and sleep deprived mother of two small children, a woman who has lost her mother at a young age, a former athlete turned fatty wanting to turn, umm…normal, every other day. So when I read Kristen Lamb’s post, ‘Sacred Cow-Tipping – Why Writers Blogging About Writing Is Bad, I felt vindicated. And relieved. I had already come to the conclusion that I knew jack-shit about writing and I couldn’t possibly babble on about how I hate grammar for an entire month, let alone an entire…umm…writing career (unless it was really short and sweet. Which is entirely quite possible. Anyways!). So I had given myself the freedom to write about just about anything. I’m still trying to figure out where my boundaries are. In real life, I don’t believe any topic is taboo, soo…I’m wondering if the post I’ve been planning on what I discovered about tampons may be too much? Let me know!
#2 – Honesty. It’s really quite simple. If you write from the heart, you’ll connect with your readers. I’m afraid of a lot of things when it comes to this blog. There are things I want to talk about, that would help me, maybe help others, but a part of me is intimated by the disapproval of others. But what I can see from my stats is that my blog post, An Oak With A Sapling Heart, has received the most hits. And it’s probably my most candid post to date. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. Besides what I’ve noticed on my own blog, Pioneer Woman, who I’m in complete admiration and adoration of, confirmed my feelings in her post, Ten Things I’ve Learned About Blogging. It’s a good post, you should go read it.
#3 – Consistency. This is probably the hardest part of blogging — doing it everyday or every other day. There’s real life stuff, writing, writing procrastination and a host of other excuses that prevent the blog post from getting written, but you have to do it. I’m still not there, but if you read comments on posts like this one, you’ll see that people achieve success with their blogs the more consistent they are. I’m fairly certain that three posts a week is the perfect balance between real life/other non-blogging responsibilities and blogging success. It’s the goal that I’m going to be working towards, in any case.
Besides posting more often, I’ll continue to post with honesty and transparency because I think there is so much we can learn from each other, if we’re willing to share our hearts. And if you like reading my blog or don’t, please leave a comment with your thoughts! I’d love to hear what you think makes a good blog good!